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Saturday, March 27, 2010

Single Parents..

Today, I was listening to BJ Shay's show on our favorite station.  He had the author of "Men are Just Better" on his show and was taking callers.  Willie is telling me it was a repeat show but it was the first time I heard it so I'm blogging about it.

Now, I only heard the last caller, but something he said really struck a cord.

This caller was wondering what advice they would have for a woman trying to turn the tables. She wanted her boyfriend to be the main provider for their family because she felt it was important for a woman to be in the home.  Obviously,  I agree with that.  She went on to tell about her situation growing up with a single mom that was the "I can do it all" type, and that's why she has such a great paying job and the mentality of taking care of herself.

The advice, though, that is where I start to disagree.  BJ and the guest speaker told her that she is the way she is because her parents are divorced.  He went on to tell her that single parents destroy children...


I couldn't believe my ears when I heard him say that.  I've heard comments along those same lines on his show before, but nothing so blatantly against single parents.

I get his ideas in some aspects.  Should women intentionally get pregnant without a partner just because they want a baby and think they can do it all?  Probably not.  It's their decision of course, but maybe that's not the best scenario for the kids. I understand his point in that situation, but to say that all single mothers destroy kids, well, I actually lost a bit of respect for him there.

My mom was a single parent.  It wasn't her choice, not really.  She did instill different values in me and my sister than if she had stayed with my dad, but I certainly don't feel destroyed.  I'm very capable. I'm very functional. I don't feel that I need therapy.

As a matter of fact, I don't always feel like I can do it all.  I'll be the first to admit that I can't do something, or at least can't do it as well as Willie does.  This is the reason I haven't been on the Wii Fit since we moved.  I'm waiting on him to connect it all, since he does something fancy with all the cords and speakers and I just get lost back there!

So, do you think that single parents destroy their children? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this subject.


Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Stream of Consciousness-A Catch Up

So, this post is basically going to be a bunch of rambling off the top of my head-just a forewarning!

I haven't truly blogged in what feels like ages.  As it turns out...starting a business is a lot of work!

So, here's an update on my life.


The past couple of months, I have been putting pretty much all of my energy into creating inventory, researching craft businesses, and networking as much as I could.  I have spent every waking minute doing this.  It really seems to be worth it though!  In the past two weeks, I have been featured on Etsy's front page twice now, and received  15 sales from it.

Needless to say, the last few weeks have been a whirlwind for me!  It's been fun though.

I also just applied for two Farmers Markets this week.  Tuesday I have a quality control meeting to show them my products and samples of a display-which means that tomorrow I get to play around with display ideas with Jess's help!  I'm pretty excited to see how it will all come together and to see what needs to be done in the coming months.  Both markets start in mid-May, so I've got about a month to finish up my inventory and get it where I want it. 


In other news, Addie is getting so big!  She is parroting everything we say now, and seems to have real conversations with us (not that we can totally understand the conversations).  She's growing strong, finally climbing on everything.  She really seems to like the time we spend in our new house on occasion. 

Tomorrow morning we get to get up and go to the house and bring over all of our storage items to leave in the garage.  They said the house will be ready by Wednesday of next week and we can move in as soon as that happens! I'm pretty excited.  I'll have plenty of storage, a new work room (with a door),  a photo "studio" area that can stay in place in the garage, and so much more.

We're also planning our trip to Texas this summer.  We'll get to stay in the newly built family beach cabin for half of the trip.  I am already packing in my mind.  Swimsuits, sunscreen, sand toys, a pop-up tent, sun hats, baby sandals...eek! Did I mention I'm excited?


You may have noticed my blog looking...blah for a few months now. Nothing but a boring header and some unorganized side bars.  Yuck.  Well, the thing is I was waiting to sign up for The Frilly Coconut's Design List!.  It appears I'm finally on her "working on" list, so it shouldn't be long now before I have a totally fabulous blog design to show off and hopefully get me out of this writing funk.  I'd love to start focusing on that more now that I'm in a routine.

So, there ya go, there's really not much new going on. At least, not as much as it feels like while being caught in the tornado of my life.  Maybe in a few days I'll blog about our recent snow-shoeing trip.  That was a lot of fun! I got some great pictures, too. Maybe this week I'll sort through those, too!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

CUTEure Feature and a Give Away!

Hello, all! It's late tonight, but I have very exciting news!!


CUTEure was featured on the front page of Etsy today! How exciting? This earned me hundreds of views on my bunny booties and 30 hearts-which if you are familiar with Etsy-land you'll know that's a big deal!

I also have more exciting news for those of you eying my products but leary to buy.  I have agreed to enter CUTEure into a blog giveaway over at Giggling Kids. Please go check out her blog for a chance to win a $10 gift code to my shop!  Good luck!!

In other news...well there isn't much.  We are getting ready for a weekend get-away starting tomorrow!! We'll be spending the weekend in Bend, Or to hopefully go snow shoeing and spend some time with my aunt and uncle.  I really can't wait! Although...it won't be a vacation from "work" for me! Thanks to my feature (and just the plain cute-ness of the booties!) I have six pair to complete and get shipped out in time for Easter!


Sunday, March 7, 2010

Farewell to a Dream..

For those of you who do not know (but may care), our family is moving.  Not too far away or anything, but we are moving.  We are going to pay the penalty charge at our apartment and move into a four-bedroom house.

Why are we doing this again? Two reasons. 

1) Ever since our flood, this apartment has had an...aroma...A musty, smelly, almost-moldy aroma.  We've spoken to the apartment manager about this and she claims they've checked twice before moving us back in and there is no mold or moisture in the walls or carpet.  Unfortunately for them, we found mold last week in the bathroom where the flood originated.  Sucks for them.  Sucks for us, too, for a number of reasons.  Despite the mold (it was a small amount-able to be cleaned up with harsh chemicals which I hate), our primary reason for wanting to leave is the smell.

2) We found a place!  Some great friends of ours-possibly our closest friends here in Washington-own a few rentals and one became available a little over a month ago!  It is a 4 bedroom house! With a yard!! 

I absolutely can't wait.  Then again...part of my heart is sinking...just a little bit.  I moved across the country to live in Seattle.  We couldn't afford the rent when we first moved here, so we agreed to live in the "suburbs" until Willie found a good job and started making money.  Little did we know that after a year in the area, he was going to make a huge career change that included another four years of schooling and training and climbing a whole new ladder. 

Like I said, I can't wait to move.  I'm excited to get into a house, especially being so close to such great friends.  That's not what this blog post is about though.  I need to get the negatives off my chest tonight.

This move-while best for our family for a number of reasons-will move us further from Seattle.  Maybe it sounds a little crazy to want this so badly, but I just feel like I've missed out on that experience.  We will now be moving another 30-or-so miles further from the city.  That makes a full 1-hour commute.

The pros are that we'll be in a smaller (safer) area, near the water, with a yard, near friends, with a built-in play mate for Addie, with a garden.

The cons are...we'll be further from Seattle.  I can't fight it anymore.  I dug my heals in long enough on this argument until I finally recently decided I can't fight it anymore.  It's better for our family. It's better for Willie. Closer to his job. 

I've known since this time last year that my fight was childish, irrational, and even a little selfish.

It's not worth it to fight it anymore. 


Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Girl's Got Style

I gotta say, Addie doesn't have much choice in what she wears daily yet, but she sure does have style! Hair style that is!


I styled her hair today by spritzing it and twirling it around my fingers a bit.  Wow. I knew she had curls but this is stinkin' adorable.  
I may have to start styling my 1-year-old's hair daily now that I've seen this!